Anchor the Deal: Take Control of Your Divorce with the First Offer
Set the tone. Lead the negotiations. Download Chapter 1 + a Free Toolkit that walks you through the exact process.
This Isn’t a Legal Guide. It’s a Strategy Manual.
Most people wait for their ex to “go first.” But in divorce negotiations, silence is often a trap. Anchor the Deal gives you the confidence and strategy to make the first move—with your own settlement offer, backed by logic and the law.
No courtroom drama. No chaos. Just clarity.
Is This Right for You?
✔ Women and couples navigating separation or divorce
✔ Mediators, financial experts, and co-parents
✔ Anyone who wants to avoid long, expensive court battles
✔ People dealing with toxic spouses or stonewalling tactics
What You Get with Chapter 1:
✅ The “Sedlment™” Method – Trademark Pending
✅ A Step-by-Step Breakdown of Anchoring the Deal
✅ Property & Debt Worksheet
✅ Document Checklist
✅ Position Statement Starter Prompts
✅ Link to Secure Storage + Pro Se Filing Resources
Ready to Anchor the Deal?
You don’t need a lawyer to get started. You need a strategy.
This guide was born from real conversations inside The Divorce Allies membership “Circle”. We saw what women were navigating—the legal battles, emotional unraveling, and the daily toll divorce takes.
So we created something aligned with our goal of having financial clarity through the divorce process. It reflects everything our members asked for—and we wanted it to be accessible to every woman walking this path.
Whether or not you're in our membership, this guide meets you where you are—and provides a roadmap for how to negotiate your best settlement.
FAQs
What is a Settlement Offer?
A framework designed to anchor your divorce negotiations with logic and clarity. It focuses on timing, leverage, and creating a first offer.
What if I don’t have all the financial documents yet - can I make an offer?
Yes—you can still make a full or partial offer. The guide includes a request list and prompts to guide your next move.
Do I need a lawyer to use this book?
No—but you can use it with your lawyer or mediator. It helps you organize the goals, documents, and timeline for your team.
What makes this different from other divorce books?
It’s not just legal info. It’s a strategy + system to help you lead the negotiation, with tools that fit real-life scenarios.
What if my spouse won’t negotiate?
The book includes boundary-setting scripts, examples of “very bad offers,” and what to do if the other side delays, distracts, or stonewalls.
Can I use this even if we’re still trying to be amicable?
Yes! In fact, this method helps prevent conflict by laying out facts, not feelings—and guiding both parties toward a logical outcome.
"Sedlment™ is not a typo—it’s a method. Set the tone. Lead the strategy. Anchor the Deal.”"
— Melissa Gragg
Meet the creator
The Allies Circle was built with a purpose: to create a commerce network of women—each one turning pain into power, and healing into possibility.
This negotiation guide was created by Melissa Gragg, a business valuation expert, financial mediator, negotiation specialist and proud member of The Divorce Allies.
Melissa Gragg is a financial mediator who has valued over 2,000 businesses and work with couples to settle complicated financial divorces outside of court. The Anchor The Deal process was built for the real-life chaos of divorce court and mediation, when divorcing a toxic spouse - using the power of leverage & timing.
Whether you have a divorce lawyer or team, are representing yourself Pro Se, or want to be prepared to negotiate parts of your divorce—Melissa created this guide for you.
